Fall! Fall? Fall…where did the summer go? Some tips for the fall and winter months.
Hope you’re having a great last-week-of-the-summer and getting ready to enjoy the last-weekend-of-the-summer.
While a large part of my coaching work is career and work related, in the course of working with any individual or group, life issues come up as well.
Because — well — we’re people.This is one of those life issues.
I’ve been hearing from clients, groups, friends, and colleagues about how hard that last weekend is, and how tough it is to contemplate the real world life of September-May.
This question from Help sums it up well. A colleague and I had had a long sit down about this topic, and then sent me an email follow-up question. I’ve included some thoughts here.
Dear Coach Kiki,
I’m not ready for fall. That’s basically it in a nutshell. It’s not like I love the summer. I’m a winter baby and love skiing, and all kinds of outdoor sports. and of course hot chocolate by the fireplace, or in front of the tv or wherever. I really love hot chocolate.
I b*tch about the heat. I hate AC. I hate fruit and cold salads. I complain about the long lines and *&^%$ TSA when I travel in summer. I even complain about drinking so many cold drinks — soda, iced tea, water. (Yeah, I’m a complainer, if you haven’t noticed.)
Here’s what I DON’T complain about. VERY casual Fridays. Leaving early on Friday (or working from home). Long weekends. The beach. Vacation. Being back from vacation and everyone else being on vacation. Less anxiety about work. Putting less pressure on myself about work. Not being in this intense work rush all the time, since even if I’m around at work, someone somewhere that I need to work with is on vacation.
I don’t know if it’s that there’s less to be anxious about during the summer. I don’t think so. I just don’t focus on all my stuff as much. I don’t worry about work as much. I can leave it when I leave. I don’t check my email every two seconds. I don’t worry that someone is doing some work thing better than me and that I’ll lose out on some promotion, raise, or perk.
I don’t know. I’m not sure what I’m asking you here. I just know that Labor Day is almost here and I’m feeling miserable about the summer being over.
I’m not sure if that’s a question, or enough for you to answer, but if you could just…I don’t know… something…I’d appreciate it.
Ah yes. Labor Day weekend. Uh — LABOR Day? I mean the name of the weekend alone can trigger anxiety — especially if you’ve been having a great summer.
A couple of thoughts — there is something to the lazy, hazy days of summer and the actual lethargy and laziness you feel because of the heat, think of countries with that kind of climate and their lifestyles. Siestas in the afternoon, dinner at 10, beach living, and more. Now, they might have that all year so they don’t have to make a drastic shift to darker, shorter days, snow/rain/sleet, tougher travel, and more.
The other issue is the structure of days, or lack thereof. In the summer
- businesses are “slower” (think of all the out-of-the-office email responders)
- casual or short Fridays — longer weekends
- kids are out of school, less pressure on them and parents regarding school work, homework etc.
- food prep — people eat lighter, easier, meals so that’s one less thing to worry about
- exercise — being outdoors and able to exercise works off a lot of anxious energy.
- no major holidays to worry about — July 4th and Labor Day aren’t anything like Thanksgiving and Christmas/Hannukah
So — you’ve been having fun, taking it easy….and suddenly it all comes at you. For some people it feels like a tsunami of everything they’ve been putting off, for others it’s “y’know, I like not being this anxious and crazed-feeling all the time, how can I recharge my life, change my routines, adjust my attitudes, and live a different way?”
Coaching note: People should be finding out if
- they have SAD (Seasonal affective disorder)
- suffer from winter depression
- are miserable in their careers and somehow manage to avoid thinking about that during the summer fun days
Coaching Tips: There are some general areas that everyone can benefit from as the season changes from the fun days of summer.
- making sure you’re getting enough daylight
- confirming that you’re not vitamin D deficient (as many, many more Americans are finding they are)
- getting enough exercise
- shifting mindsets and attitudes
- planning ahead for the holidays if they send you over the edge when you do everything at the last minute
- creating routines and structures, planning, and schedules that streamline the days and weekends
- plan for some fun weekend activities/trips so that summer isn’t the only time you’re having fun
- plan for a midwinter break
- plan for a fun Tuesday, or Wednesday, or whichever day — fun isn’t only during the summer, or weekends.
Good luck, Help! You’re actually ahead of the game since you like the winter months. You’ve got fun stuff to look forward to. Get through the change of seasons and you can enjoy all of the things you love.
Have a great Labor Day Weekend!
Your life is like no other℠
Kiki aka Coach Kiki
aka Rebecca Kiki Weingarten, M.Sc.Ed, MFA
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